Self-pity

Self-pity happens when we feel we have been treated unfairly by life. We pout, complain, and feel sorry for ourselves. The root of self-pity is pride, selfishness, and uncontrolled self-importance. Christians should not wallow in self-pity because it leads to sin and inhibits the righteous life God calls us to live. Self-pity causes us to focus on ourselves rather than God. The remedy for self-pity is a heart full of gratitude and selflessness. 

1 Thessalonians 5:18 NASB

(18) In everything, give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

Hebrews 13:16 NASB

(16) And do not neglect doing good and sharing, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

God knows the best for our lives, and He truly does work out everything for our good.

Romans 8:28 NASB

(28) And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

God works in "everything" not just isolated incidents for our good. This does not mean that all that happens to us is good. Evil is prevalent in our fallen world, but God can turn every circumstance around for our long-range good. 

God is not working to make us happy but to fulfill his purpose. This promise is not for everybody. Only those who love God and are called by him, that is, those whom the Holy Spirit convinces to receive Christ, can claim it. Such people have a new perspective, a new mindset. They trust in God, not in worldly treasures; their security is in heaven, not on earth. Their faith in God does not waver in pain and persecution because they know God is with them.

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